It’s still pro love, just not the kind we’re taught to dream about.

I wonder whether the story was an indictment of “true love” as opposed to “wrong or doomed love”? I’m not sure what true love necessarily means but I do believe that we can find love with someone that feels more special and right than anything we imagined, and even transcendent at its best. In some ways the love part, so long as it was there from the outset, is the easiest part. It’s how we deal with the challenges of an intimate relationship that ultimately determines its durability.

Rick…had it been Zooey, I’d REALLY have been a wreck!

Miranda. Have no fear. As I tried to make clear in relating the anecdote above, I lived, I learned, I moved on. The point was that many of us have Summers in our past and yet we live to tell about it and that’s kind of what the movie is all about.

That’s not to say I don’t still cling to a bit of bitterness…

BTW, nice to see Joseph Gordon Levitt continue to do smaller fare (even though he’s showing up as Cobra Commander in the Other 2 Hour Toy Ad this Summer). I imagine there was hope this one has a Garden State-esque potential to go all sleeper hit but it’s nice to see the guy trading his cachet for films that are still mostly out of the mainstream. I’m still waiting for him to get “the role” that will really astound us, because he’s shown such potential, but I suppose once that happens Hollywood will try to snatch him up and make him the next Shia Lebouf. So maybe I should be careful what I wish for.

So THAT’S why you seemed so cranky when you were talking about this in the Watercooler thread.

My darling boy, you mustn’t be prejudiced against the glamorous. People all ready have far too many preconceptions about us (varies from person to person…but a lot of them are undeniably wrong) that make our respective lives bloody difficult.

We’ve known each too long for you to hold my physical appearance against me. Let’s hope that it stays that way.

I hate to tell you this. But Liz did you a favour.

Be thankful every damn day that she let you go. I don’t know her. But she was either a selfish, spoiled, insensitive brat who deserved someone capable of equally egregious behaviour OR she understood that things weren’t going to work out and went for someone that she felt she had more compatibility with.

The fact that the dude was your roomate is harsh. But maybe (to her mind) there was no other way around it.

Great sex does little to ease your mind after the fact if your heart is effectively broken. And believe me, you can feel just as bad (if not worse) if you’re the one that leaves. In a breakup, someone has to.

But if she was that self involved – in spite of her gorgeousness – I doubt very much that it would have been worth it. There has to be give and take…and she sounds like a taker to me.

Doubt that that marriage is anything to brag about IF it still exists.

Craig, sometimes you just have to drive till you see daylight. That can be an endless black velvet evening of mythic proportions. But you get there eventually…

Anyway…

I try not to look at too many reviews before I write my own – even when it comes to the people I’m really fond of. But I’ve been looking forward to this for a while and I was intensely curious about your opinion.

When you’re VERY young (as in under 25), you have the ego to believe that you can hold relationships together by the sheer force of your will and *ahem* all the other stuff that you’ve got on the go.

It won’t happen that way.

Almost everything has a shelf life. Practically every relationship ends at some point. Dreams are lovely but they’re just dreams.

You have to know when to move on.

I’ve been buried under an avalanche of classic film screenings and going to cinemas to view current films that I’ve seen before. I’m starting to get a bit behind. But I fully intend on seeing this opening night here, which is next Friday.

Remember, Craig. We’re all human and we all go through stuff that’s similar.

Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Nearly everything that happens turns out for the best.

It just doesn’t seem that way at the time.

Indeed! i couldn’t agree more with all that. One of your best reviews of recent months!

As I said on The Watercooler thread I found the film often exhausting and cloying, and some secnes like that musical number in th epark with the animated bird and some other stylistic flourishes just didn’t work. The calandar roll-out and the clunky voice-over narration were a major annoyance.

But there were some frank and truthful observations, the two leads were excellent, and the final scene was endearing.